First of all, I would like to say thank you for taking time to read this blog, especially if you are someone reading with intent to bite my head off for my title.
Second, I want to explain that I am not here to endorse the epidemic of shirtless men on social media thanks to plagues like “mancrushmonday”. I am actually here to identify a double standard in our culture, and it pains me to see how oblivious my Christian sisters are to it.
Half Dressed Girls vs Shirtless Boys
If you are a girl, I know that you have either directly or indirectly voiced your annoyance and disgust of guys who post pictures of half dressed girls in skimpy bikinis to talk about how “hot” they are. It’s degrading to women, portraying us as sex objects, and gives guys a chance to look at girls in a lustful way. I don’t know about you, but I usually associate the word “pig” with ones that do this. Because of this mentality, you typically do not see respectable guys posting these pictures, because they have been in a sense, “called out” on this action.
But what about the countless pictures that clog my news feeds of shirtless men as girls’ “Mancrush Monday” or “Celebrity Crushes”? I am amazed to see how many girls I know that will post these pictures and refer to how “sexy” a guy is, or talk of how much they are drooling over this guy’s abs. Now, call me crazy, but that seems to me to be the equivalent of what girls get offended by guys over.
There has been created a double standard in our society, when it comes to guy and girl turn ons.
When guys are eager to watch movies like Transformers because of Megan Fox starring in it, or UT cheerleaders in Man of the House, or beautiful young women in Sucker Punch, American Pie and countless others, we roll our eyes and wonder why guys want to feed their lustful desires with these kinds of movies. Don’t they know that they are only making it harder on themselves to resist the temptation to sin and further degrade women?
Yet, so many women, and surprisingly many Christian women boasted about going to the midnight premiere of Magic Mike and bent over backwards to get their hands on a copy of 50 Shades of Grey. And no one says a thing about it.
Well I am saying something about it. It’s WRONG. And I am not trying to point fingers and say that if you are guilty of any of these things that you are going to burn in hell, but I am not going to sweep it under the rug like society has done. The reality here is that it is lust, and just like when a guy goes to those movies or posts a pic of a girl in a bikini, it tempts the flesh to engage in lustful desires towards that person. And lust isn’t only a male problem.
There seems to be a misconception that women don’t struggle with lust, but that is a lie. All humans have a sinful flesh, and so women in effect are tempted and fall into the temptation of lust. In fact, I would venture to say that over 50% of women struggle with lust in various forms, yet they either don’t talk about it, or they justify it because it’s a book, or because it’s not truly porn, just a movie about a male prostitute. It may not be as big or as common of a struggle all the time for women as it seems to be for men, but it can be, and it still is sin all the same. That being said, we are held to the same standard in the Lord’s eyes, which means we should be called out on this and should work to put a stop to it.
That’s why I am here to proclaim that this double standard should be broken, because whether male or female, as Christians we are called to a higher standard than the world, living not of our flesh, but by the Spirit. Ladies, we need to recognize that the Lord has called us to respect our brothers, just as He calls our brothers to respect us. Do not fall into this double standardized society the world has created for women.
“I will put enmity between you and the woman,
and between your offspring and her offspring;” | Genesis 3:15a
Remember that enmity, meaning deep hatred has been created between women and Satan, and he is going to especially try to use every opportunity to deceive us in a way that will lead us to the path of destruction, and to pull us away from the Father. He lives to destroy the beautiful promises that the Lord has given us, so my prayer is that we can rise above this epidemic in our society, and love and respect our brothers as we are called to do.